so today i was talking with an old friend and was explaining a particular person's personality. and he hadn't heard this comment, and thought it was worth writing down...so i will.
we both know a person that is always on the defense, assume many are "against her", and Micromanages the heck out of EVERYTHING. and what she cant micromanage, she gets rid of. (personnel included). I explained to him that with people whose lives are currently, or in the past are filled with chaos, they grasp so tightly onto their small bubble around them and feel that if they are able to control Everything in that little bubble, than maybe the utter chaos, isn't as bad, or doesnt even exist.
They are internally Horrifically afraid to death of losing even a little of the control in their circle. For fear of releasing that chaos....(related or not to the actual chaos) to them it is a coping skill...granted not the best one depending on how much it controls your life, but a coping skill at that.
Its not the process that is the disorder, but if and how the process controls us.
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